This was a term coined by SBW and I. Recycleable refers to the passing down of individuals for the purpose of dating. When you're in at least your mid-20s and have been in the dating scene for a while, you will most likely meet a friend who has also gone on a few dates with some guy you dated or were interested before in some time of your life.
Example #1: Back in 2006, John & Carrie had gone on a few dates - nothing serious, just no connection. Later, while on the topic of guys, Carried realized that Charlotte may hit it off with John. Since it was nothing serious, she passes John down to her friend Charlotte.
Example #2: When John & Carrie were trying to set their friend Steve up with Samantha, it just didn't work out. Next they set Steve up with Charlotte, didn't work out... then Miranda. (Steve is a recycleable because he's been passed down the chain).
When does recycling not work? When you and an ex were in a serious relationship for a while, unspoken law - that person cannot become a recycleable for your friend. This only applies to not so serious "let's get to know each other and see if we connect" dating. (For example, Charlotte can never date Mr. Big, even while Carrie was happy with Aidan).
Friday, March 20, 2009
Monday, March 16, 2009
Ridiculous Threats
Is it just me, or do you find it ridiculously funny (because it doesn't make much sense) when certain girls are trying to "protect" their friends. Example:
GIRL: "You better be careful when you're dating her (referring to her friend). If you hurt her in any way, I will go over there and hurt you myself. You have my word."
COMMENTS:
#1) umm, unless you are Ms. Butch, world class American gladiator, I don't think a girl is physically stronger than a guy. even if the guy is a stick, very unlikely to overpower him.
#2) What if it's the girl that hurts the guy? Does this friend still go after him?
#3) What's with the threat?! Doing that will probably lessen the chances of the guy opening up to this potential girl's "friend".
GIRL: "I don't want her to cry to me again when she gets hurt. If you hurt her, I will chase after you and get you back for it."
COMMENTS:
#1) Again, on average, girls are not faster than guys - physical limits. (Just like how humans can not outrun jaguars.)
#2) Are you just a fair-weather friend? When your friend's going through a hard time, are you not going to be there for her?
#3) Are you implying that all guys are jerks and they are the ones that are to be blamed for anything that goes wrong?
I have observed that girls who have this protection barrier around their friends are typically the ones who got burnt before by some guy(s) in the past. And because of that, have a skewed mentality that all guys are like this. But I actually have proof that not all guys are jerks (just pervs, haha). Meet DS, my perfect guy...
GIRL: "You better be careful when you're dating her (referring to her friend). If you hurt her in any way, I will go over there and hurt you myself. You have my word."
COMMENTS:
#1) umm, unless you are Ms. Butch, world class American gladiator, I don't think a girl is physically stronger than a guy. even if the guy is a stick, very unlikely to overpower him.
#2) What if it's the girl that hurts the guy? Does this friend still go after him?
#3) What's with the threat?! Doing that will probably lessen the chances of the guy opening up to this potential girl's "friend".
GIRL: "I don't want her to cry to me again when she gets hurt. If you hurt her, I will chase after you and get you back for it."
COMMENTS:
#1) Again, on average, girls are not faster than guys - physical limits. (Just like how humans can not outrun jaguars.)
#2) Are you just a fair-weather friend? When your friend's going through a hard time, are you not going to be there for her?
#3) Are you implying that all guys are jerks and they are the ones that are to be blamed for anything that goes wrong?
I have observed that girls who have this protection barrier around their friends are typically the ones who got burnt before by some guy(s) in the past. And because of that, have a skewed mentality that all guys are like this. But I actually have proof that not all guys are jerks (just pervs, haha). Meet DS, my perfect guy...
Monday, March 9, 2009
Does He/She Like Me?
During the beginning stages, games are always being played. Does he/she or does he/she not like me? Why did he/she start calling me? What does this mean? Well, here are some signs I came up with to answer the basic question of: is he/she interested in me?
1) If he/she normally dresses in a t-shirt and jeans all the time, and all of a sudden he/she upgrades to something nicer ONLY when you're around, hmmm. If he starts gelling his hair and she starts curling her hair and puts on a tad more make-up than usual, hmmm. If he/she replaces the glasses with contacts and starts spraying on some cologne or perfume, hmmm.
2) You get random texts and cute emails from that person (and when you get it, you proudly show your friends with a love-sick school boy (or girl) look on your face).
3) He/she is asking you to hang out for lunch, dinner, watch a movie, etc. There are plenty of other people to hang out with, so why would he/she want to hang out with you? Hmm, probably because you somehow sparked some kind of interest on their behalf.
4) You guys talk up a storm in person, on the phone, chat, whatever... however, when you're seen together around others in person, you barely acknowledge the other person's existence and put up a fake facade. This is probably because you can't hide that sparkle in your eyes and you don't want other people to know just yet.
5) He/she likes to find a way to have some kind of physical contact with you. For example(s): a hug that's 2 seconds longer than usual (not a side hug, not an air hug, not a butt hug, but a real genuine "come to papa" bear hug), sitting really close to you, always touching your arm or finding a way to lightly brush against you, etc.
Those are the five things I came up with. However, I believe the easiest way to figure out if he/she is interested in you is to MAN UP! Do the right thing - after three ambiguous "dates", just state your intent. The end.
1) If he/she normally dresses in a t-shirt and jeans all the time, and all of a sudden he/she upgrades to something nicer ONLY when you're around, hmmm. If he starts gelling his hair and she starts curling her hair and puts on a tad more make-up than usual, hmmm. If he/she replaces the glasses with contacts and starts spraying on some cologne or perfume, hmmm.
2) You get random texts and cute emails from that person (and when you get it, you proudly show your friends with a love-sick school boy (or girl) look on your face).
3) He/she is asking you to hang out for lunch, dinner, watch a movie, etc. There are plenty of other people to hang out with, so why would he/she want to hang out with you? Hmm, probably because you somehow sparked some kind of interest on their behalf.
4) You guys talk up a storm in person, on the phone, chat, whatever... however, when you're seen together around others in person, you barely acknowledge the other person's existence and put up a fake facade. This is probably because you can't hide that sparkle in your eyes and you don't want other people to know just yet.
5) He/she likes to find a way to have some kind of physical contact with you. For example(s): a hug that's 2 seconds longer than usual (not a side hug, not an air hug, not a butt hug, but a real genuine "come to papa" bear hug), sitting really close to you, always touching your arm or finding a way to lightly brush against you, etc.
Those are the five things I came up with. However, I believe the easiest way to figure out if he/she is interested in you is to MAN UP! Do the right thing - after three ambiguous "dates", just state your intent. The end.
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