"Shunned"

For the past year, a married friend of mine has always asked me what I'm doing on Friday nights, if there's anything cool happening, etc. After I inquired as to why he asks me that practically every weekend, he told me it's because ever since he's been married, he has been out of the "cool" and "popular" scene. Whenever he said that, I would just laugh (while thinking he was just messing around with me).

It wasn't till a few weeks ago, after the engagement when I realized "hey, I think we've been getting shunned from casual huge get togethers". Maybe it's just a "Fight Club"-like way of thinking, but after you get engaged/married, it seems like you're slowly inching yourself away from the single's loop. No more invites to Happy Hour after work, bar hopping, etc (not that that was really my scene anyway).

When I really think about getting "shunned", I'm wondering if it's more of a good thing or a bad thing. Does it really matter? No, not really... I would choose hanging out at home in my lounge fleece pants with my future hubby over spending all this time getting dressed and dolled up and getting crunk at random parties with the smell of alcohol polluting the air. So maybe it is a good thing that we are lost in our own little world with wedding planning and the future, getting "shunned" from the singles society.